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weed + coffee + house remixes of Mariah = good morning Richard

[User Picture]From: camillemaxwest
2017-01-05 01:16 am (UTC)
True. :) I've harbored physical desires for men for many years now, although I do prefer women, and I remember being told by SO many people (including influential family members) I had to pick one or the other. I came out as bi a long time ago, but re-identified as a lesbian only days later because I allowed myself to believe them. I now feel like I've wasted a decade trying to fit into an identity that wasn't truly fitting. Did you feel like you had to come out all over again? That's my concern because I really don't like being called a "lesbian" - it makes me feel guilty, dishonest, and like I'm denying who I am, even if I don't necessarily want to date a guy (the thought of a long-term relationship with a woman has always felt so much more appealing). I feel like I can't be part of the gay community anymore. :(
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[User Picture]From: not_kosher
2017-01-14 12:30 am (UTC)
"Did you feel like you had to come out all over again? "

Honestly, yes, I did. Except unlike you, I wasn't afraid to do it all over again. In fact, I felt empowered.

I knew I was going to get all of the same reactions I did the first time I came out (and I did), but the second time around I was prepared and ready for what was about to come. I didn't care though. I was declaring my truth - my REAL truth, and whoever didn't understand or accept it could truly go fuck themselves, because at that point, I was done explaining my sexuality to the entire world.

And take it from someone who knows - the gay community is just as small-minded as any other, so expect some backlash. Personally, I would just focus on what made me happy, and in time you'll find people you can relate to.
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